In Response

I don’t even know where to begin. Breathe…okay. I know “anonymous’” comment wasn’t malicious, but that way of thinking is exactly why this issue exists. Yes, a lot of women eventually redirect their goals towards family, BUT not all women do. Just because we have a uterus, doesn’t mean we automatically have a maternal instinct. Apparently, “once you have a husband and child of [your own, your priorities] completely change and you finally realize in that moment that your life's ambition is your family”…and if your world never revolves around your hubby and kid then society makes you out to be a debauched monster. Okay, maybe “monster” is severe, but you will endure a lifetime of pity looks and “why don’t you have kids, are you barren?” When faced with that, no wonder so many successful women give into the pressures of marriage and family.

And Kris…based on your experiences, your assessment of what men want is accurate. HOWEVER, you must consider the type of guy you usually go for – being the extremely successful, financially-fortunate type. What do those guys have in common? Can you say control issues? (there I go typecasting again) They obviously enjoy the company of a smart successful woman, but when it comes to holy matrimony, they’re looking towards Stepford. Speaking from the other side of the tracks, from someone who dates more of the financially-challenged type, if I told 85% of my past boyfriends that I wanted to be a “stay-at-home”, they’d laugh in my face…"you be the bread winner, baby. If you ain’t working how are we going to afford all my Nintendo games?” Just kiddin’, I don’t date losers…much.

I’ll get off my soapbox now. The truth is I think raising a family is amazing and admirable. It’s just in my nature to get fired-up at the mere mention of women’s progression being stifled. I must have burned a lot of bras in a past life.